CRAIG'S LATEST RAMBLINGS AND WORDS OF SEMI-WISDOMLiving Off the Slab Blog
Before we begin, let me warn you, this video might piss you off and it contains foul language. If you would rather not hear this kind of language, and don’t want to get pissed off, then you should probably stop the video now!
I am sure you have noticed the current trend of "not giving a fuck." In particular people feeling the need to post memes on Facebook and Instagram or to display proudly across their chests various slogans proclaiming how little they care about the feelings of others and in particular how little they care about what you think of them.
While I get where these people are coming from and I have enjoyed the philosophical ramblings of Mark Manson who wrote the best selling book, "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck," I have to point out the utter hypocrisy of proclaiming to your friends or the world how much you do not give a fuck about what anyone else thinks.
You see, as a guy now in his 60’s I completely understand that time and experience teaches us the futility of trying to please other people. No matter what you do, there will always be someone who disagrees or does not like the way you are living your life. If we are smart, this need evaporates and we simply go about our lives doing the things that we enjoy while allowing others the freedom to do the same.
Respect is a two way street. If you want others to respect your views and lifestyle, then you must provide the same respect to those who may not share your personal beliefs. If you demand respect from others without giving it in return...well that just makes you a bully and a hypocrite, and we seem to have an overabundance of those in our social media driven world.
And if that triggers you to write me a nasty comment in all caps...go ahead, I guess I hit close to home.
The truth is that if you feel the need to proclaim your “un-fuckness” to your friends, or the world at large, then you are probably not there yet. The act of making sure everyone understands how much you do not “give a fuck,” means that you really do. Otherwise, you would not feel the need to post the proclamation.
Not giving a fuck is an internal stuggle and if you have turely reached that nirvana, the need to share it with the world will dissolve. You will find the where-with-al to sit back and watch the craziness unfold around you, in a state of calm.
That does not mean you will not have opinions, but you will know when to pick your battles and when you can make a real difference in the lives of those around you.
I am not holding myself up as some "not give a fuck, guru." I have a temper and sometimes it gets away from me and sometimes I get frustrated with the things I see going on in society. But when I do, I try to ask myself, "how does getting angry about these things that I cannot change make my life any better?"
Truth is...it doesn’t.
It is also true that focusing on the things that make you frustrated or angry and posting those things for the world to see, does nothing to change a single mind, or make your life any better.
Spend your time having adventures, loving your family, eating great food and learning new things. Image what Facebook, the internet and our world could be if those are the things we focused on, rather than what we don’t give a fuck about?
Ride Safe My Friends!